Protecting Our Daughters

By Renee Bogacz

It’s a constant battle at my house: my seventeen year old daughter thinks she’s fat.  She wears a single-digit clothing size and her height and weight put her in a normal BMI range.  But somehow those things bring her no comfort; she stills sees herself as fat.  Just like all girls, my daughter is bombarded everywhere and all the time with images and messages of what she should and should not be like to be considered thin and attractive.  Personally, I don’t think any of these subliminal messages are really meant to be sinister in nature.  What is scary, though, is that there ARE a number of websites on the Internet that really are sinister in nature, and therefore dangerous for all girls.

 

The website DoSomething.org compiled self-esteem research findings from a number of sources, including these facts:

  • A girl’s self-esteem is tied more to how she views herself than how she actually looks.
  • Three fourths of girls with low self-esteem report engaging in negative activities.
  • More than one third of girls with low self-esteem also believe they are not good daughters.

Understanding these sad statistics makes it all the more vital to be aware of what lurks on the Internet to continue chipping away at girls’ self-esteem and perception.  Psychologist, author, and mom Michele Borba recently highlighted some websites that are nothing short of dangerous to girls.

 

One site mentioned is the Miss Bimbo Game.  It’s not really necessary to explain any further – all it takes is a look at the title to figure this one out.  In order to be a successful bimbo, the player needs to keep at a target weight, is encouraged to buy diet pills to do this, and keep up an attractive appearance by doing things such as purchasing breast implants.  Some might say this game is just that: a game.  But any parent of a daughter knows this game is played out in reality in homes across America every day.

 

Formspring is another site Dr. Borba mentions, which is also a site I mentioned to parents of incoming 7th graders last fall at our open house.  Formspring encourages kids to ask questions and give comments about each other anonymously.  The danger is in the anonymity because members use this as an easy way to attack and demean others, all without the worry of being caught saying something horrible.  My daughter had a Formspring account for a while and she shed tears over what she read more than once.  I kept telling her to just dump the account, which she finally did.  She now realizes it is nothing more than a tool for easy cyberbullying.

 

Finally, Dr. Borba mentions some sites that encourage and promote eating disorders.  Keep your eyes and ears open for the “names” Ana and Mia – these are clippings for the terms anorexia and bulimia.  Sites that put eating disorders in a positive light bombard girls with messages about the importance of being thin and ways to avoid eating without arousing suspicion from parents.

 

Protecting our daughters from the dangers that lurk online involves two key things: open lines of communication and being involved with what our kids do online.  If parents talk with their daughters about self-esteem issues with love and without judgment, and if we spend time learning about their online behavior, we will make strides in keeping our girls safe and raising them to be beautiful, confident young women.

Renee Bogacz has taught language arts and computers for 20 years at Channahon Junior High School. She is a member of her school district’s technology committee, student handbook committee, and anti-bullying committee. She regularly uses technology in her classroom and develops and presents cyberbullying and Internet safety presentations for her school district.

 

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